I am going to try the best I can to try and get through to homophobes/Transphobes/whatever.
I am not going to call them morons or anything I am just going to try and explain why they are wrong.
If you are a homophobe Its actually really hard to discuss anything gender related for comparison. So I'm going to use this as an example.
IF YOU ARE A HOMOPHOBE AND ARE GOING TO STOP READING AT ANY POINT AND CLAIM IT TO BE SILLY, AT LEAST READ THE BOTTOM!!
Bare with me.
Imagine the thing you like most. What is your favorite interest? Sports? music? video games? Art? whatever it is. I will use sports here as an example. It DOESN'T have to be sports. If its something else just replace it with that but for this experiment we are going to use sports.
Think about that. Think of how it influences your life. Think about how you celebrate your love of it. Do you go to games? wear your favorite player's jerseys? maybe you even play sports yourself?
Now Imagine a horrible stigma fell on the nation you live, against sports fanatics. Games, school activities, PE, and sports video games are all banned under criminal penalty. Discussing sports or dressing in jerseys are frowned upon intensely.
But you still enjoyed it. So you have to hide the fact that you ever liked them. (bare with me) If people ever found out, a BEST case scenario would be extreme demeaning ridicule. You may want to respond aggressively but you are greatly outnumbered. You may be fired from your job. You may be blacklisted. To make matters worse there are roving gangs of moral high horse mounted police vigilantes that are ready to kill you for the good of society. You have these "bounty hunters" after you that you don't even provoke or know. Who aren't effected by you in any way. They just hate what you do. If you are really unlucky your country executes or stones to death people like you.\
All the time you see hear or are taught that sports are evil because they are dangerous, aggressive, create fanaticism, distract people from society's true goals, and everyone alienates you because you may infect them with your athletic ideas.
And to top it all off, these mass accepted views are propagated by a privileged or just a majority group which your government values over others. A group you don't share the values of.
Now the world gets a little better. Athlete rights groups form. jocks fight back against their preppy artsy or nerd oppressors in school, and sometimes are even seen as victims! slowly death penalties turn into fines, then weaker laws.
You may be allowed to wear jerseys, play sports video games, or trade old formerly contraband trading cards. But playing sports is still illegal. Music lovers can go to concerts. They have the same repercussions, crowds are just as rowdy, people get just as into it, But music is morally superior because it contributes to society's arts, while sports do not. Most states or provinces or whatever you have, ban any type of sports playing all together. Other states allow athletic training, but not playing games. Others still allow only pick up games. Some states only allow pick up soccer games but not others. Others just allow golf. In order to practice your hobby in other places, you must become a legal expert knowing what you can and can't do everywhere you go, if your company (should you keep your job despite your evil gross jock ways, after all you hang out in locker rooms with jockstraps how can we trust you in the bathrooms?) decides to relocate you you could wind up in the athlete hating state of Jefferson or whatever. But of course nothing can compete with the feeling of playing your favorite sport or even watching it on the tv with your friends drinking or whatever. but only 3 states allow that.
You can get paid as an athlete in Washington state now, but if you go to Oregon, your athlete earnings are no good there. You can't get a high class hotel room in LA like in Montana If the money was earned under illegitimate means like playing football. They may even pass a law saying all you can have is funny money only good in states where sports are legal!
Oklahoma went in favor of sports games but the citizens united against you, feminists who hate their men watching sports all day, mothers with injured sons who played football, and a group who says "Hate the sport not the athlete" all voted that down. the closest place to play any sports to your home in football loving Tulsa........Pennsylvannia! The Same happens in Texas as the Austin Art snobs controlled the state!
And all you want is to play the games you love without fear of being beaten! But everyone thinks you'll turn out like the rutgers coach throwing balls at people, or the soccer riots in sinful foreign countries. They can't see the goods of teamwork, entertainment, fun, and friendly rivalry! All they see is sinful skimpy cheerleaders, parking lot brawls, locker room scandals, and jocks raping other students and bullying. AND THEY ALL treat you like you did all these things already!! You are guilty until proven innocent! You must show people you are just like them. But they shut their minds to you. A book written years and years before you were born, when sports involved chopping off heads and using them as a ball, tells them to think that way.
All you can do is wait while people say its not yet time its not yet time. You wonder if it will be time in your life time, or will the only people who see a change come after you die. You try to ignore be-headings in other countries. You already came to grips with the fact that there are some places you will never be able to go, but others will enjoy. But if you make any noise about it people pull up weak arguments that they all agree on, and act like they just took a moral stand for all true humans. You can watch as people like you are depicted as stereotypical bullies on tv, dumb muscle bound apes, or monster rapists who live in shadows and collect little toys to lure in their innocent little girl victims, and teach them how to dress skimpy and bounce around as cheerleaders.
Centers form by a morally self absorbed cult with a corrupted and mutated version of a religion from long ago, to convert sports fans into art snobs. Of course the casual sports fans come out and preach about how cured they were, and how they never really liked sports, they were just art hipsters who lost their way. The rest are said to have "given up" since they can't find anything that's as interesting to them as sports.
You may say its ridiculous, but its no more ridiculous than what happens to gay people all over. The Sports games are the marriages. The funny money is the taxes they have to pay since they are not granted marriage benefits. If a job moves them to another place, their marriages become fake an invalid without their say, but spoiled brats like Brittney Spears and the Kardashians can taunt us with marrying a new person every few hours, and no one says boo to them. Couples who can't procreate get married while gays can't and no one says boo to them. Couple this with anti abortion and millions of children go homeless without families to adopt them. Gay couples are willing to take them in. Sure they won't get a male and a female to guide them, but would you rather they die cold hungry and alone on the streets? Is it their fault their parents abandoned them, died, or couldn't support them? Not to mention that being fruitful and multiplying just isn't practical in a crowded overpopulated world where our leaders refuse to even TRY to expand to the moon and mars. I mean a world in 2050 may be horrifyingly crowded with scarce resources oversized collapsing buildings, and venusian climate zones where the heat is intense and the sky is permanently yellow and black. It sounds extreme yes, if this was 1999 and we didn't know better. I hate to go off topic but humans are reallly irresponsible.
OK SO IF YOU SKIPPED AT ANY TIME YOU MAY WANT TO LOOK AT THIS. IT COULD ENCOURAGE YOU IT COULD DISCOURAGE YOU BUT DO NOT FOR A MINUTE THINK I WILL BE SURPRISED, OR SHOCKED IF YOU FIT INTO ONE OF THESE CATEGORIES.
A good number of people reading this will
-misunderstand the topic and think i'm making fun of jocks
-Claim this all to be ridiculous based on flimsy reasons such as:
a. I can change my interests easily why would I care if my favorite thing is outlawed? Answer: Would you really just sit back and take it like that wow.....quitter
b. Sports aren't a good comparison because being gay is worse than being a sports fan/athlete! Answer: Some jocks beat up people (not morally right) or kill fans of opposing teams (also bad), or even injure other players (unfortunate but usually not intentional). About the same amount or less percentage of gays rape straight guys (bad), hate women (also bad), like to touch children (again horrible). It could just as well been banned for the same reasons.
c. They would never ban sports that is just stupid (or some other thing like that)! Answer: If gay marriage wasn't illegal I would say the same thing about it.
-Actually get confused and say but I don't like sports so this doesnt work on me. Answer: I SAID you could substitute it with anything. If its music switch games for concerts, training for practicing instruments, pick up games for jam sessions. Most hobbies are interchangeable to an extent and they all have detractors who pull out their dangers (concerts are loud, video games cause violence, trekkies stop being social, artists ignore real world problems whatever!)
-Not understand a word I said. Answer: I'm sorry It was actually as basic as I could write it. Perhaps read it again and drop your defensive wall?
-leave as soon as they heard my first "bare with me". Answer: I hope you came down here to read how silly you are. Arguments, opinions, and points of view are invalid if you don't even listen to the other side. You my friend are a noob at the world.
-Think eww your gay go away. Answer: I'm not gay. I'm bi. I've dated women. I may be transgendered however but that doesn't make me a joke or a non person. EVERYONE can make valid points. Even Hitler. Just because you disagree with someone doesn't make them less valid in everything they say. Unless there is something mentally degradable like a damaged brain and even then....
-Lost me when I said moon and mars. Answer: sorry I just really wanna go to space. Earth is starting to get to me. Just don't have the math skills to be a scientist/pilot. I also believe humanity is not going to be around forever. And there is not going to be a rapture. So If we are on Course: Oblivion then yes I say ignore space! In that case though lets not care what we do get drunk ram your neighbor's car and blame it on your ex! This is a crucial crossroads in society. We can either have a beautiful future, less pollution, less pop density, more curiosity but less war. Or we could get stuck on our own stupid petty differences and battle until we all die. Sure we will leave behind our ideals "I died for my country". But to me its not worth it. I believe we are HUMANS not Americans, Iraqi's, North/South Koreans, etc. But thats for another post!
-Think this part is unnecessary: OH YEAH WELL YOUR UNNECESSARY!!! jk. Well if thats how you feel why are you still here? obviously your wrapped up in yourself if you won't concede to ANY points whatsoever that differ from you. But let me just say this before you go. Do you really believe gays are a clear and present threat to society? or are you scrambling to find good arguments and hoping to make them stick? If you have to change your views to mold yourself into a classification of christian, Conservative, moral, or macho, then is it really worth it? I concede to republican points at times. It's just hard to get into the mind of someone who only has views because other people told them to or copied their parents, religion, or whatever.
-Are the kind of people who get angry easily and will want to post something like FAGGOTS ARE RUINING THE PLANET! YOU SHOULD DIE!1111!!!11 with no back up statements as to why you feel that way or negligible proof. In this case these people are not trying to convince others to change their minds. They instead have failed at finding a logical backing argument and have switched to their regressive primal mode of attack instead of defense. In other words, You can't argue good so you just want to make people as angry as you are now. Let me tell you I was like that when I was 13. It won't bring you satisfcation, and after a while you will find that no one takes you seriously anymore. Then you either mature, or get even worse turning into a violent raving lunitic. Thankfully I learned debate is not about "Them and us, them is evil us is good" but more about I believe in this. Let's see if we can at least get our oppenent to think more objectively and maybe even learn a thing or too. Don't hate them, accept them as people you wish to teach. Respect opponents. Don't diminish them or they will never listen to you.
-A VERY small percentage of people reading this will change their minds. Just because I don't see why this isn't convincing doesn't mean it is. It makes perfect sense to me but the narrow mind will look for flaws in every little thing and if they find one little nick the whole thing falls apart in their mind, and they get that smug look of satisfaction thinking "I GOT YOU!" Admitting that this is a very immature thing to do, we all do it. Someone misspeaks and suddenly their a bumbling moron who you can't believe. But I can see that if any homophobes actually reading this, there is a chance some will actually change their minds. These are the ones who aren't as grounded in their hatred to the point that it clouds their mind. They like me are objective, and second guess themselves like everyone should. No one is this all mighty frontier instinct follower who is right every time they get a gut feeling. "this is how my granpappy did it so this is how i diddit and dats all i knows!" is how some people actually think. They are comfortable in being simple, because It makes them feel good. And Isn't that what everyone wants? To feel good? Thats why people get addicted to drugs. They make them feel better than everything else in the universe does, so therefor they don't need other things anymore. If you can get instant happiness after all, what good is working at other things anymore? But I digress. I do go off on tangents but, They do relate.
-Some will be tempted yet go back to their old views. They will see a good point, then realize they are loosing what they perceived as a strong moral view and their primal defenses will kick in the wall will go up, and they will return to their safe place. This is where the stretching for facts comes in. Grasping at straws, the individual pulls out even the most obscure facts just to cover their original view point like a safety blanket. Its a bit like "Hmmm...you know gays don't really effect me if they get marrie......wait wait wait no no! If they get married children will get married and then horses will marry farmers!! but their are no advocates for that.....shut up brain they will come out of the woodwork!! yeah that's it!! And yes yes children will get taunted in school if they are forced to have gay parents yeah yeah!!! Thats it!! Thats the ticket!!
(to that I say well they won't be taunted if people stopped acting like you allow them too. push through hate crime laws. but oh wait oh no big government if they do that they will start putting camera's in our houses and making us listen to npr!! because thats just a few steps away >_> that's not an extreme exaggeration or anything)
-Some will change their minds in private but never let anyone know
-Some will get so caught up on my gramatical erors, that, thats all they would talk about if they posted (unlikely to post but still). These people are the most useless people in the world. If I write a huge manifesto like argument and the only answer i get is the fucking commas are wrong or I used the wrong they're their or there its just like thanks asshole......Now wipe that smug look off your face and actually say something constructive.
-Most people will agree. After all this is my page. I will not be surprised at all if the only people who read this agree with me already. That is unfortunate, because This is the most far reaching presence I have on the web with my limited tech skills, low budget, and inability to maintain large amounts of friends. Perhaps if you like it the best thing to do is to share it. Send it to your homophobic co workers, uncles, the nutty conservative friend of your father who talks in walls of words never really saying anything but how he would blow stuff up. Repost! Fav it! I don't care if you stick my name on it or not Its just that if I convince ONE person to change their minds for the better, I will have succeeded.